Did I marry the right person?

Just sharing this great post from friendster, hope you'll have time to read this its worth it I swear.

"How do I know if I married the
right person?" I
noticed that there was a Large man
sitting next to her so I said, "It
depends.
Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she
answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because
the chances are good that it's
weighing on your mind. Here's the
answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In
the beginning,
you fell in love with your
spouse.

You anticipated their call, wanted
their touch, and
liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse
wasn't hard. In
fact, it was a completely natural
and spontaneous experience. You didn't
have
to DO anything. That's why it's
called "falling" in love... because
it's
happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was
swept off my
feet." Think about theimagery of
that expression. It implies that you
were
just standing there; doing
nothing, and then something came along
and happened
TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a
passive and
spontaneous experience. But after a
few years of marriage, the euphoria of
love
fades. It's the natural cycle of
EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely,
phone calls become a bother (if they
come at all), touch is not always
welcome
(when it happens), and your
spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of
being cute,
drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with
every
relationship, but if you think about
your marriage, you will notice a
dramatic
difference between the initial stage
when you were in love and a much
duller or even angry subsequent
stage. At this point, you and/or your
spouse might start asking, "Did I
marry the right person?" And as you
and your
spouse reflect on theeuphoria of the
love you once had, you may begin to
desire that experience with someone
else.

This is when marriages break down.
People blame their spouse for their
unhappiness and look outside their
marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in
all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious.
But sometimes people turn to work,
church, a hobby, a friendship,
excessive TV, or abusive
substances. But the answer to this
dilemma does NOT lie outside your
marriage.
It lies within it. I'm not saying
that you couldn't fall in love with
someone
else. You could. And TEMPORARILY
you'd feel better. But you'd be in the
same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The
Key To Succeeding In Marriage Is Not
Finding The Right Person; It's
Learning To Love The Person You
Found!


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or
spontaneous
experience. It'll NEVER just happen
to you. You can't "find" LASTING love.
You
have to "make" it day in and day
out. That's why we have the
expression "the
labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and
energy. And most
importantly, it takes WISDOM.. You
have to know WHAT TO DO to make your
marriage work. Make no mistake
about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are
specific things you can do (with or
without your spouse) to succeed with
your marriage. Just as there are
physical laws of the universe (such as
gravity), there are also laws for
relationships. Just as the right diet
and
exercise program makes you
physically stronger, certain habits in
your
relationship WILL make your
marriage stronger. It's a direct cause
and effect.
If you know and apply the laws, the
results are predictable. .. you
can "make"
love works. Love in marriage is
indeed a "decision".. . not just a
feeling..

Such Love

This day isn't that bad at all to me, well my fiance seems not aware that I was a bit upset to him yesterday night cuz he still send those same lines he use to through to me.. So instead of getting upset to him more, I chose not to mind it and just let my feelings go so I wont feel bad thinking about those non sense feeling. Well we have just finished talking tonight and I feel good knowing were OK and that I don't feel upset anymore ohh well such love he he he. But as they always say thats how love make ups their own spices, to always keep the relationship HOT and Exciting.
We talked some stuff about life there and well thats what I have always been waiting for hehehe the talks about "USA". He is now off to computer and playing his bestfriend since birth his GUITAR, and I'm still here blogging lol, I told him I have to so I my visitors have something new to read and that it will help me increase my page rank too hehehe. Thats all I could share today... I'm looking for the brighter side of the clouds now and totally HAPPY...

heartily dedicated to me...

This is a song that my fafalicious dean made for me.... Everytime I read this one, all the memories we had shared is flashing back eh.. this is SWEET.. he made this almost 3 years ago, time flies really fast...

Lorenn 98

I know a love like this will never happen again in my life
I give you my blood, my thirst, for you to be my wife
I give you my words on paper I rhyme
there yours to keep till the end of time

Your voice is my lighthouse taking me from darkness
Speaking words of compassion and gentle kindness
Your voice carried a magical vibration
That sent me into an emotional sensation

On a desert island, i took your hand
Kissed you on island of the white sand
On top You covered me with your hair
What's mine is yours now we both share

Lorenn 98 gave her love to me
Forever In your heart I will Be
Holding you in my arms Forever
Being your first and only Lover

There's light in the beauty of your smile
It surround me with your gracious style
Better than a thousand painted sunsets
Your Heart fills my love with out regrets

Swimming in the rivers of your glory
Is my life's greatest untold story
Laughing ,touching,,naked and bare
These are the secrets we both now share


Let's not have the tangled webs of a spider
We will talk it out with words for the better
Make everyday happy like a Holiday
Were each others reward for are pay

Lorenn 98 gave her love to me
Forever In your heart I will Be
Holding you in my arms Forever
Being your first and only Lover

You're Brown skin coconut body
Moves the reef's and tides within me
Surround me with your mountains and streams
Its your heart that fills all of my unfound dreams.....


It is Lorenn98 because that was my yahoo id when we first met online, he made notes to that which he records all by himself and put it on cd.

A so called destiny....

Once upon a time there was this young lady chatting and just exploring on the net had met a man that turn out to be her soon to be husband.....

A night before this man's departure for his 2nd visit to the beautiful island the Philippines, he met this young lady @ filipinaheart, he started talking to her, sharing thoughts, ideas and experiences about his last visit in the Philippines, and this man shared something to her about his present relationship that it wasn't doing good at that time, actually thats why he bought a trip to PI just to see that girl but suddenly things have gone wrong between him and her that they had both decided to call if off, so this guy still pursue his trip no matter what, he does not care if he can't meet anyone he just want a trip... but things have gone really nice and that he met me just right before his departure for PI, we were friends at that time.

And then, the next thing I knew the morning i woke up was his in PI already and trying to make contacts with me, so then he asked for my personal numbers and ofcourse I did gave it, and for the first time I heard his voice on phone and its like WOW there must be something in this guy because I can feel something I can hardly explained, he called me like every 2 hours checking if Im doing fine, what I am doing at that time, where will I go, what was my plan, he just showed too much interest on me which I also noticed. And to think he does not even see my face on cam but he saw me on picture I was really wondering why is this man put so much interest in a girl that hides from a picture...

Then he decided to take a visit on my place well thats what he said that he'll take a look at our city and see if he will like it and from that very moment I was really nervous, anxious and other feeling's that I can't explain...

December 28, 2004 he has booked a ticket from MNL-CDO, It was funny because I did not want to meet him at the airport thinking his not gonna be there, and that I have no money to spend for the fare and other expenses though he told me he'll pay me back but still I did not went there. So I let my aunt call him and sketch to him the whole ride from CDO airport to Iligan Bus Terminal, and Thanks God he arrived safe I met him with my aunt's company, at first we dont talk too much to each other but all we knew was those silence moments were golden and precious. At the first day he ask me for a french kiss and I gave him that.... ;)

The next day I transfer him to a more nicer hotel with reasonable price, I stayed with him ( with my bestfriend) we get to know each other, talk a lot, laugh a lot, joke a lot and had fun with each others company...

A week has passed when we decided to go for an escapade to Camiguin and there we really had a good and great times, great memories, precious moments with each others. Time had gone soo fast when we were together that he has to go home, I was with him at the airport in MNL and I cried to death when I saw him walking in the isle going inside the airport lobby thats when I knew and proved to myself that I Love the man who left me with tears at the airport. LOL.

When he got home, we started chatting atleast 5 times a week since I was still in school and had no chance to go for chatting in the city, he calls me atleast 3 times a week and those feelings of wanting to hear him always made me realize I am surely and madly inlove with this stranger man I just met. The first time we met we were not yet committed it was the second time we met that we finally took the three letter word Y-E-S to each other.

December 2004 when we met online & met personally, and May 2005 when we met for the 2nd time and I said Y-E-S to his question "will you marry me?". May 2006 when we met for the 3rd time and May 2007 for the 4rth meeting, and hopefully by MAY this year I will see him again if Godswill were getting married by then...


ooopps sorry this has no ending....